Emotional Fawning
There are moments you stay quiet.
Not because you have nothing to say,
but because you don’t want to lose them.
You don’t want to make it worse.
You don’t want to be “too much.”
So, you nod.
You smile.
You swallow the lump in your throat.
And slowly… you start leaving yourself behind.
It doesn’t happen in one big moment.
It’s in the small ones.
The “it’s okay” when it’s not.
The “maybe next time” when your heart is screaming now.
The way you keep peace—by letting go of little pieces of you.
People stay.
Things look fine on the outside.
But inside?
You start to ache.
Your laughter feels thinner.
Your silence feels heavier.
This isn’t softness.
This is self-abandonment dressed as kindness.
And you know what hurts the most?
It works—for a while.
Until one day you wake up,
and the person they’re close to isn’t even you anymore.
Here’s what I’ve been learning:
softness doesn’t mean silence.
Kindness doesn’t mean disappearing.
You can speak.
You can stand.
You can still be gentle while being whole.
Because peace that costs you yourself isn’t peace.
It’s quiet chaos.
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