The Nervous System and Self-Sabotage

People think self-sabotage is a mindset problem.
Sometimes it is.
But more often — it’s a nervous system problem.

Your body will reject what it doesn’t feel safe receiving
even if you want it.

Love arrives — you flinch.
Opportunity opens — you freeze.
Money comes — you panic and lose it.
Joy shows up — and you wait for the disaster.

Not because you’re broken —
but because your system remembers when good things hurt.

The nervous system protects through patterns:

If peace once came before chaos, it learns to fear peace.

If love once ended in betrayal, it fears intimacy.

If joy once vanished without warning, it distrusts happiness.

We call it sabotage —
but the body calls it safety.

Healing isn’t forcing yourself to be fearless.
It’s teaching your system that safety and joy can coexist.
That not every good thing is a trap.
That you can receive without bracing for loss.

And slowly — the body stops fighting blessings.

You stop shrinking.
You stop doubting.
You stop delaying your own life.

You start stepping into the things you were always meant to hold.

Not by force.

By regulation.
By awareness.
By gentleness with a self that once only knew survival.