April 30, 2025

When Silence Isn’t Healing

Sometimes people say they’re “keeping the peace” when really, they’re just hiding the war.

They go quiet. They swallow their words. They build walls and call it love.

But silence isn’t always healing.

Sometimes it’s just a slow erosion. A slow burning. A slow goodbye.

We tell ourselves that if we don’t talk about it, maybe it will disappear.

We tell ourselves that if we hold it all in, we are being the bigger person.

But all we are doing is bottling grenades.

One day, the pin slips — and the explosion comes without warning.

The truth is: real peace isn’t the absence of words.

It’s the presence of honesty.

It’s messy conversations.

It’s being willing to sit in discomfort long enough to build something real.

Avoiding a fight might make things quieter.

But it doesn’t make things healthier.

It doesn’t heal what’s broken.

It just delays the pain, letting it fester in silence, until it’s too big to name.

And here’s the other truth that’s hard to say:

You are allowed to be tired.

You are allowed to not have the energy to fix what someone else won’t even admit is broken.

You are allowed to survive first.

Because your survival matters more than saving a relationship that’s already drowning in unspoken words.

Silence isn’t always kindness.

Sometimes, silence is just slow goodbye in disguise.

So if you find yourself gasping for air, weighed down by things no one will talk about —

Breathe anyway.

Live anyway.

Choose yourself anyway.

Because healing starts with truth, not with silence.

And sometimes, choosing yourself is the loudest, bravest thing you’ll ever do.