There\u2019s this thing that happens. When someone hurts you\u2014really hurts you\u2014 it\u2019s not always sadness that shows up first.<\/p>\n
Sometimes, it\u2019s fire. This unbearable urge to lash out. To hurt them the way they hurt you. To shake something. Break something. Say that one thing that will land like a slap.<\/p>\n
And in that moment, it feels like the only way to breathe again. Like if you don\u2019t release it\u2014this rage, this ache\u2014you might explode.<\/p>\n
So maybe you do. You say it. You do it. You let it out.<\/p>\n
And for a moment… relief. The heavy cloud lifts. The pain shifts. You feel powerful. Not the helpless one anymore.<\/p>\n
But then comes the silence. The echo. The guilt. Now you\u2019re not just the one who was hurt\u2014 you\u2019re the one who caused hurt too.<\/p>\n
And it\u2019s a sickening trade.<\/p>\n
People don\u2019t always talk about this part of us. The part that wants payback. That wants someone else to carry the pain for a while. That wants to stop feeling like the victim and start feeling like the one in control.<\/p>\n
But that version of control\u2014it lies. Because the pain doesn\u2019t go away. It just changes address. You mail it off to someone else and hope it won\u2019t come back. But it always does. In guilt. In shame. In regret.<\/p>\n
And just like that, you\u2019re no longer the wounded. You\u2019ve become the weapon. But even then\u2026 it doesn\u2019t heal anything. Only hides the wound deeper.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
There\u2019s this thing that happens. When someone hurts you\u2014really hurts you\u2014 it\u2019s not always sadness that shows up first. Sometimes, it\u2019s fire. This unbearable urge to lash out. To hurt them the way they hurt you. To shake something. Break something. Say that one thing that will land like a slap. And in that moment, …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2389,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[96,81,75,105,60,66,88,104,102,56,78,90,99,83,106,50,77,73,58,94,65,95,48,100,62,101,86,68,84,64,61,97,59,91,54,49,51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2388","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-ache","category-anger","category-communication","category-conflict","category-ego","category-emotions","category-exhaustion","category-failure","category-fear","category-forgiveness","category-freedom","category-friendship","category-frustrations","category-grief","category-guilt","category-healing","category-heart","category-honesty","category-inner-child","category-jealousy","category-life","category-loneliness","category-mental-health","category-mind","category-mindset","category-mistake","category-misunderstood","category-new-beginnings","category-offense","category-pain","category-personality","category-power","category-pride","category-relationship","category-self-awareness","category-trauma","category-wellness","clearfix"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n