One of the loneliest experiences isn’t being unknown. It’s being known… by a version of you that no longer exists. There comes a moment when you realize something has quietly changed. People aren’t responding to who you are. They’re responding to who they’ve already decided you are. Those are not the same thing. We often …
People think loneliness is the absence of people. I don’t think it is. I think loneliness is the absence of being witnessed. They’re not the same thing. You can sit in a room full of conversation… Watch people laugh. Hear plans being made. Feel life continuing around you. And slowly realize… No one has noticed …
Maybe you’ve been thinking about it. The way your mind quietly finishes stories before they’ve begun. Builds homes you haven’t lived in. Writes futures that haven’t introduced themselves. Maybe you’ve even caught yourself smiling at a life that only existed in your imagination. There’s nothing foolish about that. That’s what hearts do. The question isn’t …
Read more Another Window Part II: The View You Never Planned For
It doesn’t have to belong to you for you to miss it. Strange, isn’t it? We can grieve places we’ve never lived. Futures we’ve never stepped into. Conversations that never happened. People who never became ours. Sometimes we even grieve versions of ourselves we never got to become. How do you explain that kind of …
One of the most frustrating parts of growth is realizing that understanding something does not immediately change your response to it. You know the relationship is over. Yet seeing their name still does something to you. You know the criticism wasn’t true. Yet you still replay it in your head. You know you are safe …
The first mistake is often unavoidable once it’s happened. The second mistake is what we do after we realize the first one was a mistake. Think about it. A bad relationship may be the first mistake. Staying ten years longer because you can’t admit it was a mistake is the second. Choosing the wrong career …
There is a specific kind of loneliness that comes from being loved… but not emotionally reached. And many people struggle to explain this without sounding ungrateful. Because the person does care. They provide. They show up. They try. They help. But when you are emotionally hurting, something still feels painfully empty. Especially when your pain …
Read more The Loneliness of Being Misunderstood by Someone Who Loves You
There is something deeply humiliating about becoming emotionally needy after once being emotionally untouchable. You miss the version of yourself that didn’t wait around hoping someone would notice you more. Choose you more. Need you more. Love you louder. Back then, your heart felt guarded but safe. Closed, maybe. A little ruthless, perhaps. But at …
Read more Maybe You Were Easier to Love Before You Started Needing It
One of the quietest heartbreaks of adulthood is looking at the people who raised you and realising they are human. Tired. Aging. Carrying burdens. Trying. And if you are not where you thought you would be in life yet, guilt can begin to eat at you slowly. Especially when they are still helping you. There …
Sometimes I wonder if the people who love the deepest also carry the deepest guilt. Not because they are cruel. Not because they are selfish. But because they are constantly aware. Aware that someone is tired. Aware that life is hard. Aware that the people they love are carrying invisible weight. And so every emotion …