Empathy is supposed to be a light—something that softens the hard edges of the world. It’s what people praise—what crowns you ‘good.’ But even light can burn. What if it can be something else—something sharper? What if empathy, in the wrong hands, cuts deeper than hate ever could? Dark empathy isn’t loud. It doesn’t scream. …
You think you hate me. But you don’t. You cling to me. I’m the weight on your chest when the world says, go. I’m the voice that tells you, stay right where you are. I am not laziness. I am not fear. I’m older than that. I’ve been growing inside you with every broken promise …
Sometimes, it starts so quietly, you don’t even realise what’s happening. You begin adjusting. Toning yourself down. Not to deceive—but to connect. To be liked. To be chosen. To not feel so… alone. You say yes when you mean no. You ignore what hurts. You twist yourself into someone easier to accept. And over time, …
There are days you want better. You wake up and think, “Okay, let’s try again today.” Maybe it’s something small—like breaking a habit. Or holding a boundary. Or making a choice you know deep down is good for you. But then that moment comes. The actual doing. And suddenly it feels like someone just asked …
You know what you should be doing. What would help. What would move you forward. But you don’t do it. You stall. You scroll. You talk yourself out of it. You cling to what’s familiar, even when it hurts. You say you’ll start tomorrow. Or Monday. Or when you “feel ready.” But you’re never really …
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When They Won’t Save Themselves There’s a kind of pain that doesn’t scream. It doesn’t show up with heartbreak or betrayal or some huge loss. It’s quieter. Slower. But just as brutal. It’s the pain of watching someone you care about slowly tear themselves apart—while you stand by, helpless. They’re not clueless. They know what …
Nobody really tells you what to do when it all falls apart. Not the motivational kind of failure. Not the one that makes you stronger or teaches you a neat little lesson. I’m talking about the kind that leaves a mark. That kind that sits in your chest and messes with your sleep. The kind …
The easiest person to lie to is yourself. It’s weird how easy it is. You don’t even have to try hard. No big performance. No convincing tone. Just… look away from the truth for a second, and boom—lie accepted. I tell myself I’m okay when I’m falling apart. I say it doesn’t matter when it …
People admire the strong one. They lean on them, seek their wisdom, and trust them to hold everything together. But no one ever asks who the strong one turns to when they are the ones unraveling. The strong one is the person who never falls apart in front of others. They give without expecting much …
There’s a strange kind of panic that rises when you realize you don’t know something you should know. You’re in a conversation, and someone says something unfamiliar. Your mind races. Do I ask? Do I nod? You choose the nod, hoping they don’t notice the confusion flashing in your eyes. You’re in a new place, …